Not So Big Life
Making room for what really matters

What is a Not So Big Life?

A Not So Big Life is one in which you learn to listen to what your heart longs to do, and to integrate these passions into your everyday life. When you engage what you are truly passionate about, you are automatically present in what you are doing—you are showing up completely in each moment. Life becomes a natural expression of your true nature.

A Not So Big Life gives you more room to breathe and to engage the things you really love. You’ll find more vitality and meaningfulness, and that sense of being “at home” in your life.

About The Book

The Not So Big Life unveils a process for changing the way we live by fully inhabiting each moment of our lives and by showing up completely in whatever it is we are doing. Just as we can tear down interior walls of a house to open up space, The Not So Big Life shows us that we can tear down our fears, assumptions and conditionings in a way that opens us up to new possibilities so we can start passionately engaging the things we long to do. The Introduction provides a good orientation to the book.

The steps to the life you long for must be taken in the moment, just like everything else. Now is the only access door to change.

- Sarah Susanka, The Not So Big Life

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