(Note: This post was originally written in May of 2012, but although my current life is not presenting the same issues, the concepts delineated are as relevant in this moment as they were seven years ago.) There are certain key concepts involved in Not So Big Living that I want to …
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It’s no picnic to be a perfectionist. It can mean making yourself (and others around you) miserable with constant judgment, correction and impossible standards. But there are ways to begin to see through it. In order to learn something new, something beyond the beliefs and dictates of the personality (the …
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In Chapter Six of The Not So Big Life I explain a different way of looking at everything in your life, by seeing all of it as a kind of reflection that’s showing you to you. All that happens to you and all the people who are a part of your …
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I want to set the stage for this important understanding with a powerful, if disturbing, Sufi teaching story that lays the ground work for appreciating what both our dreams and our everyday life experiences can teach us. Here’s the story, taken from In Search of the Miraculous, by P.D. Ouspensky, …
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In the mid-1990s, when I’d been working as a residential architect for more than a decade, I had an epiphany one day while driving though the suburbs of Des Moines, Iowa. I had started noticing that new houses were getting extremely large, and decidedly unattractive. For miles and miles, …
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